This week we have been focusing on the men because there is a fundamental question that every man who desires to experience a lasting relationship has to ask and answer. And that question is this: how do you as a man view women? We discovered that the reality is that in our culture, women are more often than not viewed as a possession that provides a service.
Unfortunately, this is not a new phenomenon; this view of women as a possession has been around for thousands of years. We then looked at a section of a letter that is recorded for us in the New Testament of the Bible, called the book of 1 Peter. In 1 Peter 3:7, we see Peter reveal for us a timeless truth when it comes to lasting relationships in that lasting relationships are the result of men treating women with honor and respect instead of a possession that provides a service.
While that could be received as being “old fashioned”, what is old fashioned is men treating women as a possession that provides a service. What is old fashioned is men looking for a servant instead of a spouse. You see, Jesus began the women’s liberation movement and Christianity has been the biggest proponent of women’s rights throughout history. It was early followers of Jesus that adopted baby girls that were left out to die of exposure. It was Christianity that has promoted the position that men and women are of equal value and worth in God’s eyes. It was Jesus and the message and teachings of Jesus that called for men to renew their minds and get rid of their stinking thinking when it came to how women were viewed and treated.
So today I want to challenge men to renew your mind when it comes to how you view and treat women with your entertainment time in two specific areas. And in doing so, I will treat you like a thermos and not a crystal goblet.
First, I want to challenge men to, by sunset tonight, remove from their I Pod playlist or music library any and all music that refers to women as bitches, whores, or sluts. I challenge you to remove any and all music that promotes the view of women as possessions or commodities that provide a service.
Now, some of you men might be thinking “well Dave, that is just the culture we live in. That’s just how we express ourselves”. If you are a man and that thought is running through your mind, here is my response. You are influenced by what influences you. What you allow to influence your life will influence your view of life and in this case woman. And by the way, how is that great culture working out for you? approximately 46% of marriages end in divorce. The group entitled “divorced” is the fastest growing segment of the population in the U.S. Finally, 1/3 of divorced women live below the poverty line.
Second, I want to challenge men to stop engaging in the use of pornography for entertainment. If this group is representative of men in America, then 79 percent of men between the ages of 18-30 have looked at internet porn at least once this month.
Now, some of you men might be thinking “well Dave, looking at porn really is not that big a deal. I am not harming anyone. It’s just for entertainment”. If you are a man and that thought is running through your mind, here is my response. Men, when you look at porn you are revealing three things about yourself.
First, you are revealing that a physical relationship with a woman is not enough. Second, you are revealing that a physical relationship with one woman is not enough. And third, you are revealing that a physical relationship with your wife is not enough. That is what you are revealing about yourself when you look at online porn.
And unfortunately, right about now, there are many women in this room who are thinking to themselves “that explains a lot. That explains the distance between me and my husband. That explains why so many guys act the way that they do”. You see, looking at porn really is a big deal. Looking at porn not only results in you treating the image on the screen as a possession that provides a service. Looking at porn result in you treating the women in your life as a possession that provides a service. So, men it is time to renew your mind. Men, it is time to leave behind the things that influence you into viewing and treating women as a possession that provides a service.
So men, how do you as a man view women? Do you view women as a possession that provides a service? Do you view women as a potential servant that meets a need? Do you view women as a commodity that decreases in value and worth over time? Or do you view women as a being worthy of honor and respect as an image bearer of God? How do you as a man view women?
And what does what you view when it comes to women reveal about how you view women? Because, the timeless reality is that lasting relationships are the result of men treating women with honor and respect instead of a possession that provides a service…